CAE to CAF: Transition Complete

In the fall of 2017, Tyrone and I decided we wanted to get married to each other. Somewhere between October and December, I told my parents, pastors, and close friends. In January 2018, I told my family. After that, there was no turning back for me. Because I went from never having a boyfriend to […]

CAE to CAF 8: Therapist Friends

This one will be short. I have been blessed to have some amazing people come into my life over the past two years and the all of the ones who have walked me off the emotional ledges triggered by wedding stuff or marriage stuff are mental health professionals. I have a therapist. My most influential […]

CAE to CAF 7: Still Grieving

Fun fact about me: I started this blog because I was heartbroken. I needed a safe space to express myself and no one who knew me personally felt safe at the time. So if you go through blogs from 2014, you’ll have a bit more context about the series of posts that are relationship advice, […]

CAE to CAF 6: Grief

“Dealing with death is weird because someone you’ve known all of your life is suddenly gone and you’re left to deal with the fact that they’re never coming back.” Snagged from an old blog post, Remain In Peace. This is more of a sequel to that piece, but before I really get into the meat […]

CAE to CAF 5: Lyrically Yours

If you’ve ever asked how Tyrone and I met, you know this story. Picture it. East Lansing, MI. Fall. 2006. *dream music* I was invited to come to MSU Gospel Choir’s first rehearsal of the school year. Rehearsal starts and some stuff happens then we start the icebreaker. Get with your class and create a […]

CAE to CAF 3: Therapist

My best friend has walked with me through so many seasons of my life. He and I met when we were 18 and 17, respectively. We clicked instantly, but I had no idea he’d become such a major part of my life. I remember one time in 2007 we were walking across campus (Go Green!) […]

CAE to CAF 4: Entrepreneurship

This series is called CAE to CAF to highlight my most obvious identity change, my name, but this season of my life has changed many of my identities. Since I was 15, I have seen myself and identified as an educator. 15 years later, however, I now hold two advanced degrees in social science. I’m […]

CAE to CAF 1

This is long, but go with it. During this almost married season, I’ve had to repent to God. Changing my name has REALLY done a number on me. I love that people cleverly comment “OhCAE” on my posts cuz they recognize it from my hashtag. It’s cool when people ask my cash tag and assume […]

There’s Something Growing There Now

Harper and Bewick Many memories were created on this corner where my childhood church used to stand. I hadn’t come by in a while because the pile of rocks was too hard to look at. Now, there’s stuff growing there. It’s a visible metaphor. Things that were once of utmost importance suddenly don’t exist. The […]