CAE to CAF: Transition Complete

In the fall of 2017, Tyrone and I decided we wanted to get married to each other. Somewhere between October and December, I told my parents, pastors, and close friends. In January 2018, I told my family. After that, there was no turning back for me. Because I went from never having a boyfriend to […]

CAE to CAF 3: Therapist

My best friend has walked with me through so many seasons of my life. He and I met when we were 18 and 17, respectively. We clicked instantly, but I had no idea he’d become such a major part of my life. I remember one time in 2007 we were walking across campus (Go Green!) […]

CAE to CAF 1

This is long, but go with it. During this almost married season, I’ve had to repent to God. Changing my name has REALLY done a number on me. I love that people cleverly comment “OhCAE” on my posts cuz they recognize it from my hashtag. It’s cool when people ask my cash tag and assume […]

Our Mother Who Art In Heaven 

So the verdict is in, Octavia Spencer is my favorite actor. And yes, I used “actor” on purpose even though she’s a woman. (I’m a proud gramma nazi with an English degree. I know how to use words good. 🙃) Any who, I used a gendered term because it serves my purpose when examining her […]

You Can Actually Do It All

Who are you? Why are you? What do you do? Why do you do what you do? Answer those.  What’d you say for “What do you do?” More than likely you answered with your job. Our culture teaches us to place our value and find our identity in our occupation.  Think about it. As a […]

You’re Already Black Enough 

Two years ago, I went on a prilgramage through Israel. I walked on land I’ve read about all my life. I stood in places that I had only imagined. I was baptized in the Jordan, took a boat ride on the Sea of Galilee while listening to “How Great Is Our God” and I swam […]

Black Christian Millennial Survival Kit: 2017 Edition

I’m a Black Christian Woman.  I’m a Christian Millennial.   I’m a Black Millennial. I’m Black. I’m a Christian. I’m a Millennial. And all that matters all the time. But it feels like they matter even more with the inauguration of Billionaire Donald Trump being just hours away. I kinda went into detail in Dear […]

Dear White Jesus…

Last night, we watched President Barack Obama give his heart-wrenching farewell address in Chicago. Along with many of my Facebook friends, I found myself reminiscing on my college days. The first time I voted for president, I voted for a Black man. Even then I was aware of how big of a deal that was. […]