CAE to CAF: Transition Complete

In the fall of 2017, Tyrone and I decided we wanted to get married to each other. Somewhere between October and December, I told my parents, pastors, and close friends. In January 2018, I told my family. After that, there was no turning back for me. Because I went from never having a boyfriend to […]

CAE to CAF 6: Grief

“Dealing with death is weird because someone you’ve known all of your life is suddenly gone and you’re left to deal with the fact that they’re never coming back.” Snagged from an old blog post, Remain In Peace. This is more of a sequel to that piece, but before I really get into the meat […]

CAE to CAF 4: Entrepreneurship

This series is called CAE to CAF to highlight my most obvious identity change, my name, but this season of my life has changed many of my identities. Since I was 15, I have seen myself and identified as an educator. 15 years later, however, I now hold two advanced degrees in social science. I’m […]

This Is Us, But Mainly Kevin

This is Us, But Mainly Kevin… Kevin is a straight rich white man who has straight rich white man problems. OhCAE, the end. You still here? Ok, There’s more to his story, but I can’t get into it really without first acknowledging that Kevin Pearson is the EPITOME of white male privilege. To be honest, […]

This Is Us, But Mainly Randall

When I say I *LOVE* Randall I am reminded of the power and limits of language because I am not fully conveying how moved I am by this character. I read once that people who cry on movies and TV shows tend to be sensitive people, in general. I read it and totally agreed, because […]

You Can Actually Do It All

Who are you? Why are you? What do you do? Why do you do what you do? Answer those.  What’d you say for “What do you do?” More than likely you answered with your job. Our culture teaches us to place our value and find our identity in our occupation.  Think about it. As a […]

Black Girl Magic

She rocks her hair Short and curly Or long and straight  Really… she can do it all.  With her ample lips  That complement her wide hips She overcomes every obstacle  To create, shape and fill her destiny.  She is aware of her call.  To birth all of humanity To her family she brings sanity She’s […]

Poker face

I basically taught myself how to play the drums when I was nine. I watched other drummers and applied their techniques. I struggled with the same thing most drummers struggle with, keeping the tempo. The organist at my church would tap on the organ to help me out. Then his taps got louder. Then he […]