CAE to CAF: Transition Complete

In the fall of 2017, Tyrone and I decided we wanted to get married to each other. Somewhere between October and December, I told my parents, pastors, and close friends. In January 2018, I told my family. After that, there was no turning back for me. Because I went from never having a boyfriend to […]

CAE to CAF 6: Grief

“Dealing with death is weird because someone you’ve known all of your life is suddenly gone and you’re left to deal with the fact that they’re never coming back.” Snagged from an old blog post, Remain In Peace. This is more of a sequel to that piece, but before I really get into the meat […]

CAE to CAF 5: Lyrically Yours

If you’ve ever asked how Tyrone and I met, you know this story. Picture it. East Lansing, MI. Fall. 2006. *dream music* I was invited to come to MSU Gospel Choir’s first rehearsal of the school year. Rehearsal starts and some stuff happens then we start the icebreaker. Get with your class and create a […]

CAE to CAF 3: Therapist

My best friend has walked with me through so many seasons of my life. He and I met when we were 18 and 17, respectively. We clicked instantly, but I had no idea he’d become such a major part of my life. I remember one time in 2007 we were walking across campus (Go Green!) […]

CAE to CAF 4: Entrepreneurship

This series is called CAE to CAF to highlight my most obvious identity change, my name, but this season of my life has changed many of my identities. Since I was 15, I have seen myself and identified as an educator. 15 years later, however, I now hold two advanced degrees in social science. I’m […]

No One Gets to Make Me Be Someone I’m Not

I have to resist the urge to stop people midsentence every time I hear them say that something “made” them react a certain way. Example: “You made me mad when you…” “He made me yell at him cuz he yelled at me first.” Ya’ll with me? The reality is this, no one can MAKE you […]

Hope Is Painful

…But hope that is seen is no hope at all. Who hopes for what they already have? 25 But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently.  That scripture convicts me to think bigger and increase my willingness to believe in what I haven’t seen. But can we just take a […]

This Is Us, But Mainly Kate

This Is Us is the best show I’ve ever seen. I know that sounds extra, but I’m pretty sure I’m telling the truth. The show follows the lives of three adult siblings with complicated lives.  I have a DEEP appreciation for amazing portrayal the Black character, Randall. His backstory, his current story, his family #Swoon. […]

It Was Never Just About You

I had a conversation recently and while we were talking, I immediately felt more peace. Because in that moment, I heard the Holy Spirit whisper to me “It was never just about you.” That was an insanely profound moment for me. One of my repeated prayers has been to just understand the purpose for some […]

The Dichotomy of Artistry

I started writing because I was going through things that I did not know how to express. Somehow, though, when I put my pen to the paper I was suddenly articulate. Something about writing for an audience made me remember that I wasn’t alone in my suffering. Something about writing for an audience made it […]