CAE to CAF: Transition Complete

In the fall of 2017, Tyrone and I decided we wanted to get married to each other. Somewhere between October and December, I told my parents, pastors, and close friends. In January 2018, I told my family. After that, there was no turning back for me. Because I went from never having a boyfriend to […]

CAE to CAF 6: Grief

“Dealing with death is weird because someone you’ve known all of your life is suddenly gone and you’re left to deal with the fact that they’re never coming back.” Snagged from an old blog post, Remain In Peace. This is more of a sequel to that piece, but before I really get into the meat […]

CAE to CAF 4: Entrepreneurship

This series is called CAE to CAF to highlight my most obvious identity change, my name, but this season of my life has changed many of my identities. Since I was 15, I have seen myself and identified as an educator. 15 years later, however, I now hold two advanced degrees in social science. I’m […]

CAE to CAF 1

This is long, but go with it. During this almost married season, I’ve had to repent to God. Changing my name has REALLY done a number on me. I love that people cleverly comment “OhCAE” on my posts cuz they recognize it from my hashtag. It’s cool when people ask my cash tag and assume […]

This Is Us, But Mainly Randall

When I say I *LOVE* Randall I am reminded of the power and limits of language because I am not fully conveying how moved I am by this character. I read once that people who cry on movies and TV shows tend to be sensitive people, in general. I read it and totally agreed, because […]

You Can Actually Do It All

Who are you? Why are you? What do you do? Why do you do what you do? Answer those.  What’d you say for “What do you do?” More than likely you answered with your job. Our culture teaches us to place our value and find our identity in our occupation.  Think about it. As a […]

Intersectionality 

My Black Facebook friends are raging My White Facebook friends are silent I’m constantly torn between feeling like a sell out  Or possibly appearing violent.  Being a young college-educated Christian Black girl  Has to be one of the most complex identities in the world