CAE to CAF: Transition Complete

In the fall of 2017, Tyrone and I decided we wanted to get married to each other. Somewhere between October and December, I told my parents, pastors, and close friends. In January 2018, I told my family. After that, there was no turning back for me. Because I went from never having a boyfriend to […]

CAE to CAF 6: Grief

“Dealing with death is weird because someone you’ve known all of your life is suddenly gone and you’re left to deal with the fact that they’re never coming back.” Snagged from an old blog post, Remain In Peace. This is more of a sequel to that piece, but before I really get into the meat […]

CAE to CAF 5: Lyrically Yours

If you’ve ever asked how Tyrone and I met, you know this story. Picture it. East Lansing, MI. Fall. 2006. *dream music* I was invited to come to MSU Gospel Choir’s first rehearsal of the school year. Rehearsal starts and some stuff happens then we start the icebreaker. Get with your class and create a […]

CAE to CAF 4: Entrepreneurship

This series is called CAE to CAF to highlight my most obvious identity change, my name, but this season of my life has changed many of my identities. Since I was 15, I have seen myself and identified as an educator. 15 years later, however, I now hold two advanced degrees in social science. I’m […]

CAE to CAF 1

This is long, but go with it. During this almost married season, I’ve had to repent to God. Changing my name has REALLY done a number on me. I love that people cleverly comment “OhCAE” on my posts cuz they recognize it from my hashtag. It’s cool when people ask my cash tag and assume […]

There’s Something Growing There Now

Harper and Bewick Many memories were created on this corner where my childhood church used to stand. I hadn’t come by in a while because the pile of rocks was too hard to look at. Now, there’s stuff growing there. It’s a visible metaphor. Things that were once of utmost importance suddenly don’t exist. The […]

No One Gets to Make Me Be Someone I’m Not

I have to resist the urge to stop people midsentence every time I hear them say that something “made” them react a certain way. Example: “You made me mad when you…” “He made me yell at him cuz he yelled at me first.” Ya’ll with me? The reality is this, no one can MAKE you […]

Hope Is Painful

…But hope that is seen is no hope at all. Who hopes for what they already have? 25 But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently.  That scripture convicts me to think bigger and increase my willingness to believe in what I haven’t seen. But can we just take a […]

Autistic Autonomy 

The Social Learning Theory basically suggests that people learn by watching other people do things. Typically, we observe and imitate others’ behaviors. This is seen with in almost every facet of society, from adults at a bar for the first time to toddlers in the toy kitchen. But what do we do when there are […]