CAE to CAF: Transition Complete

In the fall of 2017, Tyrone and I decided we wanted to get married to each other. Somewhere between October and December, I told my parents, pastors, and close friends. In January 2018, I told my family. After that, there was no turning back for me. Because I went from never having a boyfriend to […]

CAE to CAF 6: Grief

“Dealing with death is weird because someone you’ve known all of your life is suddenly gone and you’re left to deal with the fact that they’re never coming back.” Snagged from an old blog post, Remain In Peace. This is more of a sequel to that piece, but before I really get into the meat […]

No One Gets to Make Me Be Someone I’m Not

I have to resist the urge to stop people midsentence every time I hear them say that something “made” them react a certain way. Example: “You made me mad when you…” “He made me yell at him cuz he yelled at me first.” Ya’ll with me? The reality is this, no one can MAKE you […]

Hope Is Painful

…But hope that is seen is no hope at all. Who hopes for what they already have? 25 But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently.  That scripture convicts me to think bigger and increase my willingness to believe in what I haven’t seen. But can we just take a […]

Free People, Free People

The other morning, I woke up with some special people on my mind. Those people are people like me who never fit into gender stereotypes and have felt less womanly or manly because of it. So, like most millennials I took to Facebook to express. It was a stream of thoughts. I’m gonna post them […]

The Dichotomy of Artistry

I started writing because I was going through things that I did not know how to express. Somehow, though, when I put my pen to the paper I was suddenly articulate. Something about writing for an audience made me remember that I wasn’t alone in my suffering. Something about writing for an audience made it […]

Poker face

I basically taught myself how to play the drums when I was nine. I watched other drummers and applied their techniques. I struggled with the same thing most drummers struggle with, keeping the tempo. The organist at my church would tap on the organ to help me out. Then his taps got louder. Then he […]

Empty Phrases

Two phrases parents and caregivers make sure their kids know can be two of the emptiest statements we ever hear. “Thank you” and “I’m sorry.” Neither of those matter if actions don’t show gratitude or remorse, respectively. During Manners Week my kids learned one of the most valuable life lessons they’ll ever get. “Sometimes ‘sorry’ […]