CAE to CAF: Transition Complete

In the fall of 2017, Tyrone and I decided we wanted to get married to each other. Somewhere between October and December, I told my parents, pastors, and close friends. In January 2018, I told my family. After that, there was no turning back for me. Because I went from never having a boyfriend to […]

CAE to CAF 3: Therapist

My best friend has walked with me through so many seasons of my life. He and I met when we were 18 and 17, respectively. We clicked instantly, but I had no idea he’d become such a major part of my life. I remember one time in 2007 we were walking across campus (Go Green!) […]

CAE to CAF 4: Entrepreneurship

This series is called CAE to CAF to highlight my most obvious identity change, my name, but this season of my life has changed many of my identities. Since I was 15, I have seen myself and identified as an educator. 15 years later, however, I now hold two advanced degrees in social science. I’m […]

CAE to CAF 1

This is long, but go with it. During this almost married season, I’ve had to repent to God. Changing my name has REALLY done a number on me. I love that people cleverly comment “OhCAE” on my posts cuz they recognize it from my hashtag. It’s cool when people ask my cash tag and assume […]

Everything Is Fixable

First day of work begins so it’s time to start measuring and cutting wood. I’m all over the measurements. Hand me the tape and a pencil and I gotchu. After a few tutorials, my sis Krystle takes over the sawing. It was really exciting! She took a break for a second and someone bumped into […]

No One Gets to Make Me Be Someone I’m Not

I have to resist the urge to stop people midsentence every time I hear them say that something “made” them react a certain way. Example: “You made me mad when you…” “He made me yell at him cuz he yelled at me first.” Ya’ll with me? The reality is this, no one can MAKE you […]

This Is Us, But Mainly Kevin

This is Us, But Mainly Kevin… Kevin is a straight rich white man who has straight rich white man problems. OhCAE, the end. You still here? Ok, There’s more to his story, but I can’t get into it really without first acknowledging that Kevin Pearson is the EPITOME of white male privilege. To be honest, […]

This Is Us, But Mainly Randall

When I say I *LOVE* Randall I am reminded of the power and limits of language because I am not fully conveying how moved I am by this character. I read once that people who cry on movies and TV shows tend to be sensitive people, in general. I read it and totally agreed, because […]

This Is Us, But Mainly Kate

This Is Us is the best show I’ve ever seen. I know that sounds extra, but I’m pretty sure I’m telling the truth. The show follows the lives of three adult siblings with complicated lives.  I have a DEEP appreciation for amazing portrayal the Black character, Randall. His backstory, his current story, his family #Swoon. […]

Autistic Autonomy 

The Social Learning Theory basically suggests that people learn by watching other people do things. Typically, we observe and imitate others’ behaviors. This is seen with in almost every facet of society, from adults at a bar for the first time to toddlers in the toy kitchen. But what do we do when there are […]